“Until we come to the point that we think of discipline as a privilege rather than a duty, an act of fatherly love rather than an act of impatience or irritation, our discipline will never be of faith. And what is not of faith is sin (Rom 14:23) …
We don’t have discipline in our churches, and why bother giving examples? Church discipline is so dead that most people aren’t aware it was ever a function of the church in the first place.
And homes? Most children grow up in homes without fathers, but even the fathers who do live with their children refuse to discipline them.
We don’t discipline because we’re materialists and think all that matters is life and health. We don’t discipline because we don’t believe in the immortality of the soul; we don’t believe it’s appointed unto man once to die, and after that the judgment (Heb 9:27). We don’t discipline because we don’t think in terms of telling our sons and daughters the truth about God.
If we are to be faithful to discipline the students in our school and the members of our church; if we are to obey God and love our own sons and daughters by admonishing, rebuking, and yes, even striking them with the rod; we must reclaim our faith in the sovereign God who governs all things by His wise and holy providence. From His fatherly love He sends suffering, sickness, and death to His sons and daughters ‘so that we will not be condemned along with the world.'”
Daddy Tried, Tim Bayly
“But never forget that your love as a father is based on the love of the Father Almighty. First you must receive the love of your heavenly Father through the shed blood of His Son on the cross, and then you can become a loving father, yourself.
Remember, the two greatest commandments are to love God with all our heart, and with all our soul, and with all our mind; and to love our neighbors as we love ourselves.
Note that Jesus does not command us to love ourselves. This is an urban legend. We are commanded to love our neighbors as we love ourselves — our self-love is simply taken for granted. (As Pascal put it, even the man who kills himself does it in pursuit of his own happiness.) …
Don’t make your love for your wife and kids conditional on their love for you. Love them like God has loved you, while you were still His enemy.”
Daddy Tried, Tim Bayly
“God’s children will never be as pristinely and unfailingly holy as God, but we should be holy. Christians should display a consistent pattern of obedience, along with a quick habit of going to God for cleansing when they are disobedient. This is how we can be established ‘blameless in holiness’ and have the same confidence Paul enjoyed in 1 Corinthians 4.”
The Hole in Our Holiness, Kevin DeYoung
This is a wonderful post for parents and educators alike … and it applies well beyond the topic of modesty. Our desire ought to be for our children to pursue holiness for the Lord, our God, is holy. But, there are prerequisites that must exist before they can ever make progress in this pursuit. Those prerequisites include believing the gospel and coming to see that God is their treasure above all other things. These are the most important things we ought to press upon our children. Everything else proceeds from these.
Bikinis and Modesty
Daddy Tried is a new book by my friend, Pastor Tim Bayly. Tim was MHA’s commencement speaker a number of years ago and his son, Joseph, is currently laboring to plant a church in Cincinnati. He’s devoted a substantial portion of his ministry to working with men, specifically fathers, calling them to fulfill the role God has created them for and given to them as men.
The subtitle, Overcoming the Failures of Fatherhood, is a key theme of the book. Every earthly father has failed greatly. Jesus describes earthly fathers as evil (Mt. 7:11). And yet, through Christ, we have a perfect Father in heaven who not only loves us but also models fatherhood for us. Tim points us again and again to the perfect Father.
This is no breezy book. Tim takes it as seriously as God does and hits it (fathers) head on. He makes clear how so many of today’s problems sit at the feet of fathers. It will be impossible for fathers to read this without being convicted of their own sin & failures and seeing their own need for repentance & faith, striving to fail in the right direction, as Tim says.
If you’re a father (or going to be one in the future), get this book and read it!
This looks like a very interesting new book:
Here’s J.I. Packer, the author of Knowing God, on something that’s more important than knowing God:
Something More Important than Knowing God